Being single is hard. Dating is harder. Being ghosted is the worst. But it's become commonplace to wiggle out of awkward situations and waning interest by simply ignoring the other person. There are even articles about how to ghost as responsibly as possible -- which, I grudgingly admit, is progress. If everyone's going to do it anyway, there might as well be some guidelines.
Especially when you're trying to swipe your way to love, the fear of ghosting is real. And as someone who's been on the receiving end, I can tell you: being ghosted by someone you really like is excruciating.
As much as it can seem like there are no other options once that panic to extricate yourself from a budding relationship sets in, there actually are some alternatives... uncomfortable as they may be. So let's make dating more humane by doing these things instead the next time you feel like you have no choice but to ghost.
1. Return that text... But NOT because you're going to disingenuously agree to see her again. When she says she had fun and asks what you're doing next weekend, you've been handed an opportunity to gracefully, simply get out of seeing her again. Just dart off a sentence or two setting her free from the unsettling uncertainty of weeks spent wondering if her text didn't go through while anxiously awaiting the notification beep of your reply.
The quick text is an acceptable way of ending things if you've only gone on one or two dates and haven't had sex yet. It helps to have a response handy that you don't have to think too much about, and it can be pretty generic.
Here's a stock line a friend gave me several years ago that I still use: "It was nice meeting you but I just didn't feel a total connection." Sure, it doesn't feel all that great getting this text. But it does feel good to move on. And that makes you look decidedly un-douchey.
Read full article here: https://www.thrillist.com/sex-dating/nation/alternatives-to-ghosting-someone-in-dating
Especially when you're trying to swipe your way to love, the fear of ghosting is real. And as someone who's been on the receiving end, I can tell you: being ghosted by someone you really like is excruciating.
As much as it can seem like there are no other options once that panic to extricate yourself from a budding relationship sets in, there actually are some alternatives... uncomfortable as they may be. So let's make dating more humane by doing these things instead the next time you feel like you have no choice but to ghost.
1. Return that text... But NOT because you're going to disingenuously agree to see her again. When she says she had fun and asks what you're doing next weekend, you've been handed an opportunity to gracefully, simply get out of seeing her again. Just dart off a sentence or two setting her free from the unsettling uncertainty of weeks spent wondering if her text didn't go through while anxiously awaiting the notification beep of your reply.
The quick text is an acceptable way of ending things if you've only gone on one or two dates and haven't had sex yet. It helps to have a response handy that you don't have to think too much about, and it can be pretty generic.
Here's a stock line a friend gave me several years ago that I still use: "It was nice meeting you but I just didn't feel a total connection." Sure, it doesn't feel all that great getting this text. But it does feel good to move on. And that makes you look decidedly un-douchey.
Read full article here: https://www.thrillist.com/sex-dating/nation/alternatives-to-ghosting-someone-in-dating
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